The quote that follows comes from a comment made on my last post about raising my own standard of tango... Patricia wrote :"Some women choose to dance with men who pull & push them around, have poor floor-craft, whose personal hygiene is wanting, etc. What incentive do those men have to "lift their game"? Possibly very little.
be blunt. Those men are being rewarded by women for anti-social
behaviour. Dare I say, we ladies CAN influence standards. We just need
to be determined to do so and simply not accept this."
How right she is.
This is definitely a problem - and more so at some of the milongas I attend than others. The problem as I see it at the milongas where women dance with men who progress through the ronda as if they were pushing shopping trolleys or dancing the polka, or where they have remarkable BO problems, is that there is a drastic shortage of men and the women who dance with these 'leaders' do so simply to get a dance/dances. I have reached a stage in my dancing where I will not dance with these men - I would prefer to sit out all night and enjoy the company and conversation of those who are also sitting out. Or to dance with a beginner (we were all beginners once)
Which does mean that at certain milongas I may only dance one or two tandas.
This is a dilemma. The push-me-pull-you dancers will not acknowledge their lack of ability and those with poor floorcraft will probably never learn - BO is probably the easiest problem to deal with - however even this will not be raised by the women who, tired of sitting out all night, or whose own skills are not good, accept the low standards.